Life Update

Hi everyone. Hope everyone is doing ok. Because I am not. As you probably noticed, I have not typed anything for this past month, and you all have the right to know why. Apologies in advance for the rambling since I have been holding in these feelings for a while.

As you already know, I suffer from anxiety and depression and this year has not made it any better. Lately, I’ve been starting to wonder whether or not my feelings matter to anyone. So, I’ve been keeping them to myself since I have come to the conclusion that my feelings are insignificant, especially during these times when everyone is going through so much worse than me.

I also have not been sleeping well lately. My anxiety loves to act up at night. Part of me was still in denial about the severity of the coronavirus and its impact of the world. Once reality finally hit me, it made my depression so much worse. I have some good days, but I have been having a lot of bad days lately.

So, I have stopped posting anything on this website since I felt like a hypocrite. How can I post anything about positive mental health when I’m experiencing the total opposite?

I have not told anyone about this, not even my friends and family, because as mentoned before, I know everyone else has their own problems, especially due to this pandemic, and my feelings are insignificant.

I’m going to take a step back from this website for a while. I don’t know when I’ll be back, but just know by reading this post why I haven’t and why I will not be posting any blogs.

Apologies for the ramble, but I needed to get these feelings out somehow. So, hopefully, I will see everyone next time.

 

Friends and Mental Health (Part 2)

Hi everyone. As promised, here is the continuation of how friendships can be beneficial to your mental health.

There will be a time when your friendship is tested. That time is when you or your friend discusses mental health.

First, based on research, I’m going to tell you how you should teel your friend about mental health. Choose a friend that you trust the most. Figure out how to talk about your mental health issue in order to make it easier for both of you during this conversation.

Choose a time and a place to discuss your problem. While choosing a place, you should consider:

  • A quiet or noisy place. (e.g. indoors or outside)
  • You can do it by yourself or in a crowd. (e.g. a bar or a restaurant)
  • You are doing an activity together. (e.g.  walking, or sitting down)

You could call or text to your friend, but if you do, try and talk to them face to face when everything is done.

Even though mental health problems are common, they may never have heard of this problem.this may be the first time they’ve heard someone talk about having one.

Be ready for them to feel awkward and not know how to respond. This may be because they feel so worried about you or perhaps your newsbecame something relatable in their own life.

Most people don’t know very much about mental health issues so it may be a good idea to tell your friend about the problem itself, but don’t overwhelm them. Take it one step at a time.

Now, I’m going to discuss how you should respond to your friend’s mental health problem.

If you’re the friend of someone with a mental health problem, you may be concerned about them. The most important thing is to tell them that you’re still their friend. If your friend is comfortable with being touched, a hug shows that you care about them and that you accept them whatever problems they are having.

The most valuable support you can provide is just being there to talk and listen. People really appreciate that their friends have made time to contact them, visit them and invite them anywhere.

Mental health problems are so misunderstood that someone who acknowledges your problem, continues to accept you and treats you with compassion is doing something extremely important to aid your recovery.

If you follow these techniques plus other tools you can find online, then you’re friendship can last for a long time.

That’s it for now. Sorry I’ve been gone for a month and a half. You’ll see why in a life update post coming your way soon. Until then, stay safe and I will see you next time.